I lost myself early on in motherhood and it wasn’t intentional. One day, I looked in the mirror and barely recognized the woman staring back at me. So much in my life had shifted that I stopped caring about how I showed up, even for myself. But over the past year, I’ve been so intentional about rebuilding: mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, and finding my new evolved style has been one of them. I’m no longer drawn to the pieces I wore pre-motherhood. I want clothes that feel like me but comfortable, confident, and appropriate without aging me. I’m finding my pink again 💕, piece by piece, outfit by outfit. Below are a few of my recent outfits and what they reminded me of. Nothing fancy but little steps toward reclaiming my style.
Being intentional about what I decide to wear everyday shifts my energy, helps reconnect me to my identity and helps reset the tone for how I treat myself.
3 Ways I’m Rediscovering My Personal Style
1. Wearing What Feels Like Me and Not Just What’s Trending
I’m learning to stop dressing for what’s trending. Now, I pause and ask myself: “Does this feel like me?” I’m letting myself wear the colors, textures, and silhouettes that bring me back to the girl who used to get excited to get dressed.
2. Recreating Outfits That Inspire Me
Instead of scrolling and saving, I’m actually trying the looks I love. Not always constantly buying new things but just recreating them with what I have. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t. But every time, I learn something about what I like now.
3. Making Space to Show Up
Sweatpants and leggings cannot be my everyday look even if it is comfy and convenient. 😂 Updating my cozy outfits have made a big difference. Hair not done? Still showing up. I’m finding that the more I let go of needing to look perfectly “put together,” and work with what I have…. the more me I feel. That counts too.
My Style Checklist:
✅ Comfy
✅ Covered but still cute
✅ Breathable
✅ A nice silhouette: not too tight, not too baggy, not too baggy
✅ Nothing I have to constantly adjust
What We Are Trying to Avoid:
❌Sweatpants
❌ leggings
❌ flip flops with fur 😅
Getting dressed used to feel like a chore now it feels like a quiet way of coming back to myself. I’m not chasing trends or perfection. I’m choosing softness. Familiarity. And every outfit, every mirror moment, is a reminder that I’m still blooming even in the in-between, even in motherhood. This isn’t about finding a new version of me. It’s about honoring the one who’s always been there.
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