Nearly 2 months later…I’m still here, mommying and lifting.
Let’s just say the terrible twos have been taking me OUT these last few months! Lol From big emotions, no being our favorite word, to snacks are life; I can’t say I have been enthusiastic about blogging lately. Hearing countless stories about this phase always left me feeling a bit intimidated, but living through it has been an entirely different—and admittedly exhausting—experience. Here are a few personal lessons I have learned from this experience.
Flexibility-Embracing the Chaos
The number one thing that helped change my perspective and not internalize his behavior was recognizing that this phase is 100% normal and a phase of development. We are all human and experience emotions. However, toddlers struggle with how to navigate their emotions which can be labeled as “big emotions” or “chaotic”. This approach has helped me drop the “terrible” label altogether. I have been intentionally helping him to understand and navigate those emotions as well. Often times, males are expected to not show emotions and are very seldom taught how to navigate them in a healthy way which leads to them coming out or being suppressed in unhealthy ways. We have done a great job of establishing routines but allowing wiggle room to accommodate his ever-changing moods and energy levels has done wonders. Check out this book that does a great job of teaching kids about emotions and how to cope. Motherhood has taught me the art of flexibility—learning to adapt, pivot, and embrace the unexpected with grace, even when life throws curveballs my way.
Patience is Truly a Virtue
If this season has revealed anything, it’s just how much my patience has been tested. 😅 Understanding that example is the best teacher and managing my own emotions not only helps me cope better but also models emotional resilience for him. It has been a humbling experience to recognize and accept my emotions without judgment and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed or frustrated. This has been a significant adjustment for me, especially since I didn’t always allow myself the space to process my emotions healthily in the past. I have learned when things get intense, it’s okay to step away for a moment, take a few deep breaths, or a short break to regain my composure. All in all recognizing that this is a learning experience and I have to give myself grace and remind myself that this phase is temporary. Reflecting on what worked and what didn’t has kept me inspired to try new things and that I am doing my best.
Finding Joy in the Little Moments
Aside from the tantrums, one of my favorite things about my baby right now is witnessing his blossoming personality! New interests, talkative days, and lots of curiosity have been some of my favorite experiences lately. I am blown away daily by how much he knows and teaches me. These sweet and funny moments truly make it all worthwhile. I am sure there will come a day when I will miss these days.
Every day is unpredictable and a new adventure while I strive to be the best parent that I can be. Embracing the unpredictability, giving myself grace, and acknowledging progress no matter how small have been the best lessons learned.
